Hijab related questions:
Q: Believe it or not?? Westerners and Asians ask me if I wear it at home!!!??
A: no I don’t!! I don’t cover my hair from my dad, son, brother, husband, and uncles!! No I don’t sleep wearing it and no I’ am not BALD! :)
Q: It is too hot out there, how could you wear it around your neck?
A: It is even hotter in hell isn’t it??
I heard a very nice comparison from a friend yesterday too; she said: okay so if it is very hot out there and some guy is wearing normal pants does he take them off in the street? Well no he doesn’t.. he has to wear the pants and it isn’t the pants that are making him feel hot anyways. You just get used to what you wear!
These are the mostly common questions I get nowadays. I’ve been asked these questions a lot lately as many people I work with are non muslim and non arab. I don’t really mind it, on the contrary I really love it when they are asking and I answer proudly, and believe it or not many of them highly respect it.
Now some acts got on my nerves lately, so what are they?
1- I hear of a friend who has taken off her hijab lately, why??? Because she can’t find a GROOM!!
2- I know a woman who took off her hijab because her husband wanted her to!!
3- A friend was telling me that he is looking for a bride and that he is planning to get married, so if I knew anyone maybe I could recommend, but his first condition was: I DON’T WANT HER WEARING hijab! Tayyeb why? Because he doesn’t like girls with hijab.
4- Hijab is being ridiculed. You don’t find a certain job because you cover your hair. If you enter a certain place sometimes people look at you like why is she dressed up like that ( I’m not talking bar am just talking a normal restaurant but not so many muslims are there)
5- Hijab a TREND
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8- The list goes on.
No offense to any girl who does not wear hijab. I’m not trying to make you wear it because I know at times like these it could be difficult. I myself took a long time to get a 100% sure that I want to do that. I know it is not easy for a working woman. I know it is not easy for a woman who is out there and has great ambition. I know it is not easy to give up on showing off your pretty hair. I know it is not easy to shop for long skirts and long sleeve shirts and t-shirts. I know we all think we are more beautiful without it.
BUT
Hijab doesn’t stop you from anything in your life. I have always done whatever I want but with my veil on. I say it with pride and yes it makes me feel much safer and decent inside. If someone wants to hire me and make me show cleavage to clients so that they sign a deal well am not an object. I am a muslim woman who in Islam has the greatest deal of respect, and unlike what others try to convince us a muslim woman is NOT oppressed.
Presentable: hehe THAT word… people now think that a woman with a veil on is of lower presentability. She cannot be taken to certain places, and yes that is very true!! She cannot be taken to a bar nor a night club.. but why do we MUSLIMS want to go there anyways! You know how the devil sometimes makes you do things you never want to really do but sometimes you just get weak. Well hijab STOPS YOU! It is a blessing and protects you from so many things.
If you are a muslim MALE and you don’t like girls with veils on then is something wrong WITH YOU!! There is something wrong with the way you think, and nothing wrong with her! Let’s stop making veiled girls feel like there is something wrong with them! Because there isn’t!! If you are a guy and willing to share your resources with someone else then go ahead but don’t regret it later because you are the one who chose that! It is sad that when I asked my friend if he even prays and he said no.. so I said guess what? A muhajabeh girl wouldn’t take you for a husband either!!
If you are a MUSLIM girl (with or without hijab on) BE PROUD OF IT. If you have reached to the decision of wearing it then you should be totally wanting it and not just doing it because now there are better fashionable ways to wear the scarf. Do it form your heart and that’s only when it counts and that’s only when you will feel like you have done the RIGHT thing. Brag about it and don’t ever let anyone look down at you because it is your belief, your religion, and YOUR decision. Make people respect it by respecting yourself. Show people the confidence in what you do so that they learn how to deal with it even if they don’t like it. On the other hand, if you haven’t reached the decision yet and you are still waiting for the right time then I pray from all my heart that you get to it soon. Life is too short! You never know what happens, and the sooner you get to God the better you feel. If you were totally convinced and up to the challenge then you won’t ever regret it.
We have a beautiful religion and a beautiful culture that we have to brag about all the time. It is sad how we not only lost our standards but are even shamed of them at so many times!!
Peace,
August, 10, 2006 9:10 AM