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Sunday, February 19, 2006

Does it REALLY MATTER?

 

This is how the story goes:

 

She : a Palestinian girl

 

HE: An Egyptian guy

 

They: have lived in the same country all their lives.

 

They: Have many things in common and love each other!

 

THE OTHERS: leish? W keef? W la2 w Impossible!
 
 

 

 

You live your life waiting for the SPECIAL someone! And this special someone finally comes across! You have the same interests, you talk so much, you like the same things and hate the same things too! To make it short… you guys fall in love! So you date for a while and it can’t get better .. he tells her he wants to come and meet her parents to get engaged! She loves the idea and thinks HE IS THE ONE! HE IS THE MAN I want to share my life with! She goes up to her parents and tells them about it and THEY DON’T WANT TO MEET HIM! Why ? simply because he comes from another country!

 

Okay so what does she do now?? TWO OPTIONS: 1- let the love of her life just GO and listen to her parents! 2- fight for him so bad and get married while knowing that they don’t want him and even if they eventually get married things wouldn’t be really comfortable for her parents!

 

She is Muslim and he is too, he is even Arab.. so what better do parents want? The question is do they REALLY know better! And when they just think it is going to be very different than the norms she is used to and that’s why she will be suffering later on? Well she chose the guy didn’t she?

 

The main question is what should she do???

 

Love,

 

Reema

posted by Ramroom, in Controversial Issues @ 12:57 PM, ,
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wedad
February, 19, 2006 1:04 PM
I miss ur posts :)
if i was in her place i would runaway, coz at end its my life and iam the one who will get married and iam the one who will stay with him forever!! and really I would like too to marry an egyption guy, they are amazing. tell her to fight more and if their silly parents didnt approve at end, ESCAPE :) ana kunt ba3melha
Ramroom
February, 19, 2006 1:52 PM
Hi wedad .. thanx girl bas truely I've been terribly miserably busy :( hala2 meshi el 7al :)

I think she should tooo :) bas on the other hand parents are important! ya3ni running away just like that OH MY GOD that would be sad! :(
wedad
February, 19, 2006 2:35 PM
ma azen ra7 ykun a big deal, coz they dont care about her happiness why she should!!!!!!!!!?? right?? but i told u she has to fight more, and running away her last option
rashaas
February, 20, 2006 12:40 PM
happy for reading your posts again ;-)

well it's tru that in our generation a lot of things has became different and in many times our parents wont understand our choices, they try to protect us from what they think is wrong, i'm not with wedad running away shall never be an option, your friend must pray "2ste5ara" ask allah for help, and then she should simply try to talk to her parents about this guy highliting his personality and the things she likes about him and tring to get away her parents attention from his nationality, she should try several times, and if she has a big brother she can introduce him to that guy so he would help her in pursuding her parents.
after all that if it didnt work out then it's what allah wants, but running away will get her a part with her family and is not a good way to start her own family
'm sure her parents will say yes at the end when they got to know the guy better, but it's normal to have "no" at first it's our society way of thinking and cant be break at once
good luck to her
Ramroom
February, 20, 2006 1:21 PM
Thanxxx rashroosh :)
I guess it will be a tough journey we can only iwsh her a LOT of luck ... :) as she really needs it!
Khalidah
February, 23, 2006 10:58 AM
I don't think that anyone should advise or tell her what to do as she is the only one who will live with her decision and its consequences.

It is a tough call ..

Her parents are not subject for compromise .. no matter what she decides or is forced to do .. she will be thankful to have chosen her parents to always be a part of her life .. parents are our solid soulder, our safety and our reference ..

If they really love each other that much, they should take their time and be very very patient in making their families get used to the idea .. mostly hers .. she has to be wise and understanding .. she needs to see things through her parents' eyes to get why they are doing this .. if there is anyone on this planet that care for her happiness the most, it is her parents .. and she should know that in her heart

I know that this is a long comment .. but if there is one advice that I would give her, it would be to be careful and not so transparent .. I mean she should not communicate the rejection in an ugly matter to her boyfriend, because they might end up marrying after her parents come around .. but he will carry the rejection in his heart and it will come to the surface for the tiniest reasons in the future .. again, she should be wise .. not easy to do .. but she will gain the benefit at the end of it

Good luck to all of you
Ramroom
February, 23, 2006 4:26 PM
Khalidah..

Thanx for the advice :)

Real deep... Thanx again!