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Monday, January 30, 2006

Where is the Love!

 

I have a friend!

 

She has known a guy for 2 years now! He loves her and she loves him! He proposed and she accepted! He met her parents and they liked him! His parents live else where… and five days ago they came to meet her. She was at the airport to meet his mom and dad. She saw them for 10 minutes, says hello and everyone goes home. Ever since then and her fiancé FLIPS! First thing he says to her is lets postpone katb el ktab a little bit! Then she asks as what is the reason behind the delay and he says lets just wait a bit, I need to fix some things before we write the CONTRACT! She agrees! Ever since then he never calls! She calls him and HE DOESN’T pick UP the phone!

 

Finally he decides to call her and say that it is over. He gives no explanation as to what is happening but the only thing he says is “my mom thinks you are not our type!” so they just call everything OFF!
 
 

 

I just want to go into this guy’s brain and heart, and know what is going on! After two years of a relationship and as simple as that he just calls it off! Now what I am amazed about is how did the mother judge that she is not the girl for her son?? She saw her for 10 minutes (oh by the way the girl is beautiful)! She didn’t even give the girl a chance and talk to her and know her. Ya3ni if she atleast talked to her and pointed out all the bad stuff about her it would be more reasonable.

 

THE GUY! Ma32ool after really wanting someone and fighting so hard to be with her he would just drop it in seconds??? And why?? Just because HIS MOM didn’t like her?? Question? Who is marrying her? The mom or the son??? I’m not saying the guy should totally abandon  his own mother bas the least you would expect is FIGHT for the one you love! (or atleast seemed like you loved) Make them get and sit together!

 

Please explain to me what would have been the REAL explanation! I seek help to understand this. Why is there always a battle between the mom and the KENNEH? Why is the guy always put in that situation?? When would the guy fight for a girl? Why would he just let go? I know this guy personally and would have never thought that he is MAMA’s boy, because he isn’t. He is one of the most admired men I’ve met with a real strong personality!

 

It makes me think … can I ever trust a guy? Or is he gonna flip one day?

 

Love,

 

Reema

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Omar
January, 30, 2006 11:33 AM
Sad story indeed. I would not want to comment or over analyze till I hear the story from the guy.
Khalidah
January, 30, 2006 8:38 PM
Life has the good and the bad .. you will never know what really went on and my advice to you is don't even try to know because you will not like it .. keep things as they are as this way you at least gave him the benefit of the doubt .. and trust me .. since it ended this way and this fast .. it was not worth it to begin with
Good luck
Ramroom
January, 31, 2006 8:22 AM
Omar he is A NICE guy! bejanin el shab I met him a couple of times and he is one of these people that click right to your heart! The sad thing is what would have went wrong! :(

Khalidah : I posted this 15 minutes after my friend had that talk and she told me! I guess my emotions were toooooooo UP! yemkin min 7are2ti 3aleiha I felt so bad! I guess you are right I wouldnt even wanna know what went wrong all of a sudden bas elwa7ad ben2ihir 3ala el nas el 3'alyi 3aleih :(
Khalidah I have a new NICK NAME for you : 7akeema ( w btedde 7o2an)
You inspire me :)

Love
Reema
wedad
January, 31, 2006 9:16 AM
i have nothing to say unless waaaaaaaaaal !! but really she should be happy coz he cancelled before katb elktab :( its hurting i know but imagine if she really married this guy and live kol her life and mother inlaw bet3amleha ka2enha not her type:) msh fahmeh shu hal7amawat hadool !!!
I think she desrve more explanation from the guy, not just a phone call at least if he loved her enough, but i doubt he did, you can tell from his attitude. u ana law ma7alo i'll marry her and run away.
rasha
January, 31, 2006 9:38 AM
i'm with omar i dont think we should go on judging this guy, no one knows what went wrong! and i dont think that would be the only reason, who knows maybe he is hiding something else.
any way tell ur friend to be strong and she should be sure that Allah choses the best for her even if it hurts now, i'm sure that one day she will realize that this is the best thing that happened to her
HoUzeR
January, 31, 2006 9:47 AM
well... guys u r missing out smthn, sorry for saying this but the guy didnt really love her, sometimes couples think they r in love but later on they discover they aren't, but its too late and they r committded, what i think happened is that the guy wasn't sure about the girl, so on his first opportunity he fled, about the mother, well... parents most of the time just wanna say no to everything, especially in our society, parents don't trust their children's desicions, and even their mature siblings. thanks!
7ala
January, 31, 2006 10:12 AM
well ...
i dont know what to say...
there is milion of things that may be said on these situations but i believe that there is always more than one face to evry story ... but i think even if he has another reason and he doesnt want to say it becoz it hurts he should find a better reason than "not our type!" becoz its soooooo ... i cant find the right word ...

mo shar6 eno ma be7ebha ... maybe he loves her but new things happened and he cant explain ...

its better for her to give him an execuse ... for herself not for him ...

i believe that we cant be 100% sure of anything in life.
HaSSaN HaSaNiN
January, 31, 2006 10:13 AM
I know that most of u will not like what i wil;l say but i will say it anyways:
1- he is a rich guy
2- he like the girl and maybe he loves her.
3- how do they get engaged and his parents were away.
4- maybe his mother got affended by his son choosing a woman while she is away and not respect her enough to wait for his mom to go to see the girl before they do anything forma.
5- rich guys fear theier parents why? cause if they don't they will be poor ( belive me that is common)
6- when a rich guy sees a woman that he likes he wants her to be his by all means and I blame the girl for going a long with his games ( "if u want me send ur parent to meet mine" that is what she should have done )
7- some guys are experts in hiding what they really are and the let u see and hear only want u wanna see and hear but in reality he is his mama's boy
8- next time don't fall in love with a guy just because he is rich and nice looking and can brain wach u.. meet his parents first
HoUzeR
January, 31, 2006 10:23 AM
its not totally the being rich thing, their is a big difference in real love and convincing your self that u r in love, real love means commitment, NO SELF-CENTERED behavior, devotion, and fighting everyone for the girl, as i always say to my fiance when we fight about my parents or her parents' issues; in a year or so we will not be with them anymore, we'll be living together alone, i mean when we get married, so in arabic 6ag3oolhom and if they love their son or daughter they will know the best thing for them.
HaSSaN HaSaNiN
January, 31, 2006 10:31 AM
beddik e9ara7a enti btistahali elli 9arlik
wedad
January, 31, 2006 10:32 AM
all of you bte7ku shaglat good and all of u bte7kun min wejhat nazar kteer, its right all of it!!
but i think she deserve to know more and real conversation with him and explain her what really happned, this lead me that he never loved her
HaSSaN HaSaNiN
January, 31, 2006 10:38 AM
maybe he just liked her and wanted to have some fun..
and when he faced reality said enough fun lets find a new girl..
sorry girl but u have been fooled
next time think ok...
Ramroom
January, 31, 2006 1:06 PM
Wedad: She actually asked to see him and he didnt even want to.. he just wanted to end it on THE PHONE! waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaal again!

Rasha: Elhamdullilah she is stronger than any girl I have ever met.. If it was me I WOULD HAVE go tinto a nervous breakdown or something.. We dont judge anyone we just ask ourselves... WHY??

Omar: I would say that you really have a point! Maybe he realized that he wasnt in love with her all of a sudden! and it is good that he realized that BEFORE they get married or else it would have been a nightmare!

Tala: nomatter how much hw ould have hurt her with amything he might have said.. atleast she would understand! ya3ni she would find peace in a real explanation! Maybe there is something wrong with her character and he didnt want to hurt her bas it is her right to know.. maybe to work on all the goods and bads of her personality!

HASSAANNNN :) 1- shokran ana ma 9arli eshi :)
2- His dad came to the country previously and went and saw hers so she knows a part of the family which is his dad! and things were totally nice! Maybe the mom felt irritated when she wasnt here the first time!
3- THANKS! :)

Love,
Reema
Ramroom
January, 31, 2006 1:07 PM
I forgot somehting... He is not rich... so he wasnt scared to be out of the will!
hala (7ala)
February, 09, 2006 4:30 PM
ramroooooooooooooom :(
my name is 7ala (hala) not tala!

ana za3laneh :(
Ramroom
February, 10, 2006 11:02 AM
ana asfeh ya a7la 7ala! ma3lesh ma tweikhzeeni 3atabik 3ala nazar! :)
HoUzeR
February, 11, 2006 11:21 AM
hehehehe.... am bored.... tel3abo shaddeh ?