Hello,
The first way, we meet new people is by getting introduced to them through a friend. This friend gives the other person of how you are. Gives them a brief summary of what you like, how you act, and how you look like. The other person usually prints a picture before coming to meet you. Most of the time things your friend says tends to be true and then that person would make a full impression of what you are.
The second way where you meet people, is somewhere of common interests. You could meet that person at a gym, a library, or in a bar... doesnt matter ... you have common interest it seems and you carry on from there and get to k now more about each other with time.
The third way, is when you meet a total stranger. EX: It is your first day at work, all these people you are going to spend most of your day with are at first complete strangers to you. You walk in not knowing how to handle any of them. You would either choose to not react with anyone and wait for gestures from others, or you would ( MY CASE) rather die than sit there and wait for them to start a conversation. How did they see you on your first week? How did that differ from what they think about you NOW??
It is interesting how I was sitting with a friend ( I know for more than 3 years now)over lunch today, and she suddenly says Reema I have a question and I want you to be very honest! I say " shooooot baby" She says " What do you think of me as a person?" and after I ask her to elaborate so that I understand that she wants to say that what would people think of her when they first meet her :) so my answer was WELIK YOU ARE TOOOOOO SERIOUS that you could get scary! so she says " oh my God" so THAT'S what is scaring the guys away heheheh. Apparently that was not the reason why she asked that question but it is that she was trying to know how people read her. Interesting enough we go into many factors of her personality... She is tooooooooo much fun but gives people the impression that she is SERIOUS . Even at work her manager said to her once if she was MAD at him or if she was unhappy about her job.
It makes me think. How do people see me too? so I asked her the same question and hehehe ( IM NOT GOING TO SHARE THIS PART!) she said horrible things about me!
Knowing yourself through people's eyes could be one of the most effective ways to being a better person! A book called " The 7 habits of highly effective people" by Stephen R. Covey brought this up in a beautiful scenario. The writer explained " You are dead, and it is your funeral, You can hear everything around you. You are in church lying in your coffin, and 3 people are going to talk about you. They are asked to say how you were while you were alive. One person from you family, another from friends, and the last from work! What would they say? What was good about you and what was bad about you? Sit and write them down. Judge yourself and work on your goods and bads before people judge you!"
